The Dark Secret of Tango

               The dance of tango is usually paired with danger but it is also associated with an individual suffering from a deep, personal pain. For some the traumatic experience lasts such a long time that they cannot imagine living without the constant hardship. It is a strange phenomenon of the human condition.

               I’ve heard of people who choose to stay with a soul-searing soreness rather than discard it because they are more afraid of the unknown, a life of freedom from their ‘monkey’ that is always on their back, digging into their flesh, their nerves and often into their very soul.

               Tango allows you to remember these aches, whether they are with you still or lost long ago in a vat of wine or along the path of a diligent effort to escape them. This is a phenomenon of the dance. The reason for this is the necessity of the dancers to connect to the music as well as to each other.  To make this connection, a dancer must be honest with himself and with the music. Tango music is often full of painful stories and to deny that you take comfort in this would be a lie…to yourself and to the music.

               It is this confrontation with the truth that sets you free yet keeps you coming back forever.


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