American
culture has a problem with intimacy and I think it is a big impediment to our
understanding of tango. It is my guess that the source of this difficulty stems
from our Puritanical roots but it does not matter, only that we recognize that
it should be a concern.
There is a
tremendous release of stress during the sex act. I've detected a similar
release of tension after some of my tango encounters. I think this same
observation has been made by many who take up this dance and therein lies the
confusion that tango and sex are kind of the same.
I have a
machine that massages my feet. It is wonderful. I think that it too relieves
stress but I do not in any way associate it with sex.
I am not
going to say what I think leads to sex but I can say with certainty that tango
and sex are not one and the same. If this is what you think then you need to
get over it because it is an obstacle to your progress. This kind of thinking
creates a false foundation on which to build your dance and it will not support
you when you run into trouble, such as when you start a sexual relationship
based upon satisfying tango encounters.
Let me
tell you what I think tango is. It is two people attempting to translate a song
into movement with spontaneous choreography. We accomplish this by connecting
to our partner physically, mentally and emotionally. Maintaining balance as we
unite so completely with a stranger is difficult. We become tango dancers when
we attempt to educate ourselves on the finer points of stability and synergy.
It is an education that never ends and it is a process that cannot begin until
the student realizes that the bedroom is not at the end of the road.
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