Something More Than Sex

        There is an old saying, “there are some things better than sex and some things worse than sex but there is nothing quite like sex."

        Tango is a lot like sex but it is not sex.

        Tango is unique among all forms of dancing because it does not rely on patterns; it is a dance based on an understanding of the fundamentals of movement by two people: forward/backward/side steps, pivots, simple changes of weight and that most important fundamental of all, the pause.

        There is another saying, “the passion of tango is not in the movements, but rather, it is in the pauses.”

        I have found that the pause is one of the most difficult concepts to master. It is the absence of movement but it is full of intention. It is a moment, or several moments, frozen in time. It is two bodies joined together in an intense exchange of passion as an interpretation of the music and nothing else.

       That is how tango becomes something more than sex, because of the absence of sex in the pause.


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