The Difference Between Boys and Girls

               Girls are made of sugar and spice and everything nice. Even though I can’t claim to know the mind of a woman, I have to say this children’s rhyme is probably true. There often is much truth in the jingles that are part of our oral tradition. Even that woman in Philadelphia who talks slutty to me when she’s wearing her six-inch heels that she calls her Fuck-me pumps, even she is a nice girl at the end of the night when she’s tired: the naughty girl act is just that, an act.

               Boys, on the other hand, are not so nice. We can’t be, how else would we balance out all that niceness inside those angels we call ‘women’? On the base layer of every man’s id is an adolescent little boy trying catch a glimpse of a lady’s private parts.

               I offer as proof the incredible success of Howard Stern among men and his near total revulsion by women.

               The Catholic Church is an interesting laboratory in which to view the disparity in the basic natures of men and women. I offer as evidence the international scope of pedophilia trials being conducted against priests and the unassailable good works of the various orders of nuns. The atrocious actions of the men are counter-balanced by the altruistic deeds of the women: yin and yang at work in a culture that denies its existence.

               Girls do have a slutty side and it is often on display in short skirts, makeup, a little wiggle in their walk, but that is not who they are beneath all that distraction. Tango, through its intimate embrace, has helped me see into many of the opposite sex and I can’t say I've seen anything there that indicates anything other than pure grace.

               As a man, I know what we guys are like when the ladies are not around and I can tell you it is nothing like what I imagine is going on with the women. This is why I believe balance is not just necessary on the dance floor it is also an important ingredient in your life.

               Men wear their higher virtues on their sleeves and display them through action for all to see. We would rather not be doing those things but we are constantly driven by a need to at least appear to be something more than what we are. That is why there are firemen and paramedics: when we were young we saw the admiration in our mothers’ eyes for such men and we knew then what we wanted to be: someone Mom admired.

               

               So there you go guys, when you feel yourself starting to ‘wander off the reservation’ and want to start opening up to your partner, don’t. There are reasons talking is discouraged in tango and the natural disparities between boys and girls is one of them.

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